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What Leaves a Man Cold and Turns a Man Off...

What Leaves Men Cold?

It is not difficult for a woman to understand what turns a man on. Most men are easily pleased, both in and out of bed. The difficulty, for some women, is in recognizing the traits and behaviors that men find off-putting. So what will make your man run away as quickly as his legs can carry him?

Don't Nag

Too many women fall into the trap of nagging their partner in order to encourage what they see as positive changes. Women can nag about anything and everything. It could be that you want your man to pick his dirty clothes up off the floor and put them in the laundry basket. Alternatively, you may dislike the fact that he tends to procrastinate. Women nag about the perceived imperfections and faults that their partner has. Constantly nagging a man is a big mistake. Self improvement is always a personal choice. Nobody changes because another person demands it of them. By constantly nagging your man, you are basically telling him that you don't think he is good enough.

Stop Trying to Please Him

When a woman is with a man she really cares about, she wants to make him happy. It is very important that you do not try too hard to make your man pleased with you. If you are overly accommodating, you will not pose a challenge, and men like to chase. Have your own plans, ideas and opinions. Avoid being at his beck and call. Be a challenge by giving the man in your life a little room to approach you. If a man perceives you as being overly eager and willing to please, he will think you are needy. Neediness is not an attractive trait in either gender.

Watch Your Attitude

Would you be willing to date a male chauvinist pig? You probably answered no to that question without giving it a second thought. Yet many women in modern society are sexist towards men. They have an officious and overbearing attitude. They make their derisive opinion of men very apparent. You may think this is being a feminist, but it comes over as prejudice against men. If your man thinks that you do not like men very much, it won't make him feel good about being with you. He will feel undervalued and disrespected. Do not be afraid to praise your man, and show your appreciation for the good things he does. This is not a sign of weakness, but an indication of confidence and strength.

Give and Take

While it is a mistake to be overly accommodating, you will also put your man off if you are excessively self-centered. Relationships are always about compromise, and we must be willing to give as much as we take. The days when women were expected to do nothing but cook, clean house and raise children are long gone, but that doesn't mean you should focus solely on your career and do nothing at home. Men have been conditioned to see women as home makers. Modern men may be willing to compromise, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't take on your fair share of household responsibilities. You will also need to make plenty of time for your partner so that he feels loved and needed.


It is definitely a bad idea to nag at your man, yet that does not mean that you should give him the silent treatment instead. Many women become frosty and silent when something about their relationship with their partner is bothering them. This cold attitude does nothing to fix the issue, and it drives men crazy. If something is bothering you, speak up. Talk things through without yelling, nagging or getting upset. Once you have said what you needed to say, give him some space so that he can think about it. Try to communicate with your man just as you would a good friend. That way you will find it easier to find a solution to any problems you may have.

Looking Good

Men are definitely visual creatures. In other words, men get turned on by what they see. Hence a woman who does not take care of her appearance is off-putting to a man. You may be tempted to let certain things slide because you are married or in a long-term relationship with a man. This is not a good idea. Always make the effort to look your best. Dress well, stay in shape, wear makeup and visit the beauty salon. It is also a good idea to make sure that you always smell clean and fresh. Confident women who take the time to look and smell good are always more attractive to men.

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