Break Up Advice

Our Articles on Break-Ups

Breaking Up With a Narcissist

Narcissistic Information

Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru & Breakup Advice Column

Break-Up Support Forums

Breakup Reports; Win Them Back or Recover From a Breakup

Breakups Home

How to Get Over a Long Term Relationship...

How to Get Over a Long-Term Relationship

By Evie Gray

Whether you ended it or your partner did, coming out of any relationship can be painful and stressful. Moving on from a long-term relationship can be especially tough, as you need to give yourself more time to mourn the relationship and readjust to your new life. But the sooner you can rediscover yourself as an individual and start enjoying your life again, the healthier and better you will feel. Below are some tips on how to get over the break-up of a long-term relationship.

*Don't contact your ex

This may seem a bit harsh, but seeing your ex is only likely to bring up all the negative emotions and feelings you had whilst the relationship was ending, and set you back in trying to get over the break-up. If you have to see your ex because of financial or family reasons, treat any meetings like business. Meet on neutral ground and try and stay focused on the topic in hand rather than going over the reasons you broke up. In time it may be that you and your ex can be friends, but it's important to put distance between your old relationship and your new friendship so that you are both clear about the nature of your relationship.

*Re-discover YOU as a individual

Try and remember all the things you used to do when you were single or before you met your ex. Rediscover old hobbies, meet with friends or simply spend some time on your own, remembering all the benefits of being single! If you and your ex-partner had a lengthy period of arguing before you broke up, it could be beneficial to enjoy the peace and sense of empowerment that comes from making all your own decisions again. This is also a good time to do something your ex perhaps didn't approve of or something you wouldn't have done as part of a couple, such as get a dramatic haircut, go traveling or change your job.

*Meet new people and old friends

Being newly single is an excellent time to catch up with friends, who can often get a bit neglected when you're in a long-term relationship. Going for dinner, to the movies, or even just getting a coffee can all be an excellent opportunity for you to share your feelings with friends, take your mind off your ex and have fun! Moping at home alone is the worst way to try to get over someone. If you find that lots of your friends are coupled up or very busy, make some new ones! Join clubs or societies, find a new hobby or even go on a singles' holiday.

*Don't just remember the good bits

It's easy to look back at a long relationship and see it through rose-tinted glasses. But focusing only on the good things in the partnership will just make you yearn for a perfect ideal of the relationship that doesn't really exist. Although it's hard, when you find yourself feeling lonely and reminiscing about the past, don't forget about the bad parts. Remembering how you used to argue or how you didn't listen to each other won't be easy, but it'll make you feel a lot better about your single self.

And finally...

*Don't jump straight into another relationship

When you're lonely it can be really easy to jump straight into another relationship, the new person seeming to fill the gap your ex left in your life. However, 'rebound' relationships are rarely successful, and often buried feelings rise to the surface and cause real problems. You need to give yourself time to grieve your relationship and re-establish a sense of yourself as an individual before you commit to another person.

For more intense tips on getting over a breakup read this report by Tigress Luv, the Breakup Guru

Read Our Breakup Advice Articles

View our reports on saving your relationship, getting back together, or recovering from a breakup, narcissists, attraction, nice guys versus bad boys, infidelity, commitmentphobia, and more

Join our break up support community and post on our forums

Read Tigress Luv's (The Breakup Guru) Breakup Advice Column

Like Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru, on FaceBook

Find us also our new site "Breakups"

Follow our daily breakup quotes at Breakup Inspirations!

Read Some Breakup Poems or Find Sad Love Poems

Read Tigress Luv's Ending Relationship Quotes

Check out Breakup Songs and Music

Like this page on FaceBook

This site brought to you by the Lifted Hearts Network, and Tigress Luv, the Breakup Guru

Copyright the Lifted Hearts Network. Please do not copy our site and 'reword' it to fit in with yours. Thank you! :)