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Get Your Ex Back Even If They Have Pulled Away From You...

Get Them back After They Pull Away
Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru

Why Did He Pull Away? Who really knows, but here's how to get your ex back even after they slip away.

Have you ever been in a relationship where your ex suddenly pulled away without warning and became distant? The relationship breaks down and you're left with no clue as to what went wrong.

If this has happened to you, it is still possible to get your ex back even if he was the one who pulled away.

In situations where your partner has suddenly decided to stop calling or contacting you, or he keeps making excuses why he can't see you or make another date with you right away, many women become worried.

They fear that they're losing their partner, so they do what they think is the right thing. They immediately begin calling more or sending text messages, trying to get him to respond and reassure them that all is okay.

Unfortunately, the more you push for contact, the further your ex is likely to retreat. In an effort to re-establish communication, you could actually be harming your chances of getting back with your ex.

Here are some simple tips to get your ex back to you, even if he pulled away.

1. Stop Contact

Your ex knows you've been calling, texting or emailing regularly and he's been avoiding returning your messages. If you stop contacting him for a few days, he'll suddenly wonder what's wrong.

Sometimes men will pull away emotionally and avoid contact simply because they feel as though they're losing a part of themselves while they're in a relationship. They usually need a bit of time to establish their own independence and individuality and many men will come right back.

However, if you continue to push him for more contact or beg him to come back to you, then he hasn't been given a chance to miss you or to feel what his life is like without you in it. Give him that opportunity for a few days.

2. Attitude

Think about how you were when the two of you first met. You would have been fun, bubbly, happy, and excited to see him each time you dated. Now consider the last few times you spent time together. Were you both enjoying each other's company?

Or were you crying, pleading, arguing or begging him to come back to you?

Sometimes men will view a relationship as becoming too difficult when it's no longer as fun to be in as it once was. All men love to be around women who make their lives better than it was without them. If they suddenly find their life is too difficult with you in it, they'll pull away because life has become easier when he's on his own.

This doesn't mean you did anything wrong, but it does mean that you may need to think of another way to discuss certain things that don't involve arguing, crying or otherwise making you both unhappy.

3. Self-Esteem

When you've gone through a break-up, you might be tempted to sit at home and avoid going out. While you might think it's the last thing you want to do, make time to go out with some girlfriends. Get dressed up in a nice outfit that makes you feel good about yourself, treat yourself to a hair cut or style and go out on the town.

This step won't necessarily get your ex back on its own, but it will help to boost your self-esteem and give you a chance to hang out with people who care about you. Raising your self-esteem is a great way to make it easier for your ex to recognize the happy-version of you he fell in love with when you first met.

4. Careful Contact

Once you've spent a bit of time re-discovering your old self, it's time to make a careful suggestion that you and your ex catch up over a coffee for a chat. At first, he might be a little reluctant to meet with you, as he'll be thinking you're just going to cry and beg him to come back to you. This can be an upsetting thought for many men, as he'll understand it's his fault you're unhappy, which could make him pull away again.

However, when you do contact him, suggest a casual, public place to meet. This will let him know you're less likely to argue in public and he's more likely to accept.

When you get to your date, make a point of being happy, bubbly and friendly about conversation. Talk about work, talk about hobbies or interests, ask about his interests, but avoid talking about the relationship at this point.

You should find that if you've followed these steps to get your ex back, he'll be sitting opposite you in a public place looking at the happy, fun girl he fell in love with. This can usually be the nudge he needed to realize that he wants you in his life once.

Sometimes your breakup has its own special circumstances and will you need to take more action than just the above list covers. I have a more intense report available that has special tricks you can use to bring your ex back to you. To read the report on bringing your ex back please visit my Breakup Eraser page by clicking here.

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