Get Them back After They Pull Away
Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru
Why Did He Pull Away? Who really knows, but here's how to get your ex
back even after they slip away.
Have you ever been in a relationship where your ex suddenly pulled away
without warning and became distant? The relationship breaks down and
you're left with no clue as to what went wrong.
If this has happened to you, it is still possible to get your ex back
even if he was the one who pulled away.
In situations where your partner has suddenly decided to stop calling
or contacting you, or he keeps making excuses why he can't see you or
make another date with you right away, many women become worried.
They fear that they're losing their partner, so they do what they think
is the right thing. They immediately begin calling more or sending text
messages, trying to get him to respond and reassure them that all is
Unfortunately, the more you push for contact, the further your ex is
likely to retreat. In an effort to re-establish communication, you
could actually be harming your chances of getting back with your ex.
Here are some simple tips to get your ex back to you, even if he pulled
1. Stop Contact
Your ex knows you've been calling, texting or emailing regularly and
he's been avoiding returning your messages. If you stop contacting him
for a few days, he'll suddenly wonder what's wrong.
Sometimes men will pull away emotionally and avoid contact simply
because they feel as though they're losing a part of themselves while
they're in a relationship. They usually need a bit of time to establish
their own independence and individuality and many men will come right
However, if you continue to push him for more contact or beg him to
come back to you, then he hasn't been given a chance to miss you or to
feel what his life is like without you in it. Give him that opportunity
for a few days.
Think about how you were when the two of you first met. You would have
been fun, bubbly, happy, and excited to see him each time you dated.
Now consider the last few times you spent time together. Were you both
enjoying each other's company?
Or were you crying, pleading, arguing or begging him to come back to
Sometimes men will view a relationship as becoming too difficult when
it's no longer as fun to be in as it once was. All men love to be
around women who make their lives better than it was without them. If
they suddenly find their life is too difficult with you in it, they'll
pull away because life has become easier when he's on his own.
This doesn't mean you did anything wrong, but it does mean that you may
need to think of another way to discuss certain things that don't
involve arguing, crying or otherwise making you both unhappy.
When you've gone through a break-up, you might be tempted to sit at
home and avoid going out. While you might think it's the last thing you
want to do, make time to go out with some girlfriends. Get dressed up
in a nice outfit that makes you feel good about yourself, treat
yourself to a hair cut or style and go out on the town.
This step won't necessarily get your ex back on its own, but it will
help to boost your self-esteem and give you a chance to hang out with
people who care about you. Raising your self-esteem is a great way to
make it easier for your ex to recognize the happy-version of you he
fell in love with when you first met.
4. Careful Contact
Once you've spent a bit of time re-discovering your old self, it's time
to make a careful suggestion that you and your ex catch up over a
coffee for a chat. At first, he might be a little reluctant to meet
with you, as he'll be thinking you're just going to cry and beg him to
come back to you. This can be an upsetting thought for many men, as
he'll understand it's his fault you're unhappy, which could make him
pull away again.
However, when you do contact him, suggest a casual, public place to
meet. This will let him know you're less likely to argue in public and
he's more likely to accept.
When you get to your date, make a point of being happy, bubbly and
friendly about conversation. Talk about work, talk about hobbies or
interests, ask about his interests, but avoid talking about the
relationship at this point.
You should find that if you've followed these steps to get your ex
back, he'll be sitting opposite you in a public place looking at the
happy, fun girl he fell in love with. This can usually be the nudge he
needed to realize that he wants you in his life once.
your breakup has its own special circumstances and will you need to
take more action than just the above list covers. I have a
more intense report available that has special tricks you can use to
bring your ex back to you. To read the report on bringing your ex back
please visit my Breakup Eraser page by clicking here.
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